How to adjust their own mentality? In order to run the marriage for a long time, we must learn from each other and invest in each other. In the daily life of marriage, how much investment we put into the daily life of marriage determines how much difficulties and hardships we can bear in case of difficulties in marriage. Marriage is like a small box. If you want to take it from inside, you have to put it in first. At the beginning of the marriage, both parties are willing to put in. However, with the change of time, people's investment in marriage is getting lower and lower, which means that the level of commitment to the difficulties encountered in this marriage is also decreasing. Both sides are unwilling to invest in it. They only care about getting benefits from the other side. Gradually, the small box becomes more and more empty, and the marriage comes to the end.
Hello everyone! I'm the tutor of Uncle Guo's elite team. My career is marriage retention, separation of the third party, and improvement of marriage EQ intelligence quotient. I can help you get rid of the dilemma of marriage, deal with mutual disagreements, and make your family happy and happy. Many students can't wait to get help from the tutor for the first time. However, when the tutor asks about some basic conditions, he can't tell clearly how to change the status quo and get rid of the polarization of marriage?
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It's not terrible to encounter problems, but the fear is that you have no development direction. There are always more ways to solve the difficulties than you encounter. Uncle Guo's feelings are the best way to get your exclusive gifts and get the most technical and professional specific guidance and analysis to add wings and service guarantee to your home. Uncle Guo, my daughter-in-law is cheating. Uncle Guo, my daughter-in-law has run away. Uncle Guo, I don't want to divorce. This is the first sentence most students and teachers ask. Don't come to the teacher until the marriage problem is especially serious. Don't wait for the problem to change and it is difficult to solve itself. It will always expand the difficulty coefficient of retention. This is also a major reason for the split of marriage. It must be considered by all. So how can this kind of problem arise? Why does everyone's emotion come to the end?
Next, let's talk about the simple analysis. What is the root cause of the wife's cheating? I often ask everyone a difficult question: when did the marriage conflict start? What was the cause of the final outbreak? What was the expression for me? At that time, we had a quarrel because of so, so, and so; that time, we had a quarrel over something; At that time, we had a quarrel because of our parents' problems; that time, I disturbed her and quarreled because of the loud noise in the TV play. The most fundamental reason for this kind of problem lies in that we all feel that we are not wrong, we are not willing to bow down, we all feel that we have not made mistakes, and we are the most oppressive person. The person who apologizes should be the other side. In that case, the marriage problems always become more and more serious for you. Because of your insufficient cognitive ability of marriage, you don't know how to solve these problems properly. We began a long period of cold violence, torture each other, little by little pushed the other side away, and finally only a cold, sad family members were left.
At this time, you need to learn how to correctly adjust contradictions and solve difficulties. If you never know how to deal with such problems, inform your tutor of your specific situation. The tutor will guide you one-to-one, and teach you how to solve difficulties with appropriate methods and methods, and how to operate marriage for a long time. The following is an example of my student. I hope everyone can get some feelings and help from it. In the whole process, who do you think is more reasonable and who is the victim? No one is wrong. The fault lies in the lack of cognitive ability of each other's daily marriage life and the failure to deal with the problems in the family in an appropriate way. I will give you an analysis of this example. Boy logical thinking: in order to better this family, I drive for eight hours a day. I have to see the color of the boss and the traffic police team outside. I have to work hard to earn money for a better family. Every day, I finally get home. I want to have a good rest. I put a lot of money into my home What's wrong with me? Women's logical thinking: I'm at home every day, washing the sheets, cooking, mopping the floor, taking care of two children, and solving the endless chores of life, even without a speaker.
All day long, I'm looking forward to your coming home from work, talking for a while, but when you come back, you know how to watch your mobile phone. I am yellow for you, for the baby, for the better home. You don't pay attention to me and yell at me. What do you mean? What's wrong with me? Well, I want to ask who's wrong? We all want to have a better life in this family. It's impossible for everything to go smoothly in daily life. When you encounter trouble, it will cause some negative emotions. If you vent this negative information and emotion, due to the wrong way, you just start to quarrel with each other, and both parties feel that they are not wrong. This ignites the fuse, and everyone's relationship will change a little bit, and finally step into a hair A scene out of control. If everyone's emotion is in such a link now, if you never know how to change the current situation, tell your specific situation to your tutor and ask him to help you find a proper way to deal with it.
Each other will invest in this family, but how can we often quarrel and make conflicts? This is because there are problems in the way of communication. Women are sentimental animals. It is necessary to pay attention to and take care of them. If a man does not pay attention to his own woman, he is very likely to have cold violence. After the continuous "cold violence", a woman will go outside to find someone who can give her enough attention and care. This is one of the reasons why most women have affairs. In fact, when a woman has an affair, the boy has to bear a very big obligation. Because of the boy, he doesn't have enough sense of belonging for his own woman. Have you ever thought that when you and your daughter-in-law are cold and violent, the third party outside is really considerate and caring for her daughter-in-law. How many women can resist it? When they quarrel with each other, they will be angry and will feel that they are the most oppressed and aggrieved person.
And in marriage, change and tolerance
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Will let the marriage down steadily. When everyone is angry, what is the competition, who cares more about this family, whose communication mode is stronger, and who is more tolerant of the other side. When people argue, it's not that you think the "I'm sorry" is the ultimate solution. This kind of solution always makes the problems among us continue to accumulate. When the accumulation reaches the limit, due to the complete outbreak of the next minor contradiction, the marriage relationship will collapse. When a woman starts looking for a third party, she just wants the attention that she can't get at home, and doesn't want to have an affair. However, with the change of time, the third party is getting better and better for her, but you haven't changed everything. Under the considerate care of the third party, she gradually turns to your heart. At home you give her only reprimand, outside the third party is really concerned about care, your wife just began to lose her mind, did harm to the family.
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How to adjust their own mentality? To deal with the split marriage, if you want to retain the marriage, the first thing you need to do is to find the root cause of the marriage problem. Then let the tutor let you treat the symptoms, deal with the previous contradictions, and carry out the retention with appropriate specific methods. Only in this way can the marriage be regarded as long-term and stable. The third party in marriage is not terrible, and there is suspicion in marriage. What's terrible is that if you encounter problems, you don't understand how to deal with them, and use incorrect ways and methods, resulting in the polarization of our marriage. Originally, I care about the other party very much. However, if you really want to keep your marriage, let the technical professional tutor guide you how to solve the marriage problems. Let your marriage get rid of polarization, step into steady development, and make your marriage more and more happy and happy again Happy.