一般状况，出自于男人的不光滑，对比于女生，男人更非常容易得意忘形看起来很自以为是，一直非常容易凸显一副个人感觉优良的情况。大伙儿很有可能看了那样一幅图。女生即便 身型再好，也非常容易感觉自身不足极致；男人即便 身型很差，也非常容易感觉自身还算非常好。因而许多 男人非常容易自傲，感觉要是随意打整下列，女生就应当会喜爱上他。
How about a long time of single love? How can single lovesickness be freed? My brother should know that Emma is learning psychology. Although love is also one of psychological phenomena, the psychological knowledge used in personal growth is quite different. Personal growth includes: choosing a learning style suitable for individuals; finding out the influence of past experiences on current behaviors through reviewing their childhood and adolescence; meeting the challenges of adult and independent life; maintaining healthy body and mentality; coping with stress; enjoying beautiful love, love, gender roles and sex; working and entertainment; creatively coping with silence Lonely and solitary life; understanding and accepting loneliness and death; choosing the value and significance of life; embracing the diverse and changeable world; taking the path of personal growth.
Thanks to the deer emotional platform, it can open up a personal growth plate, and also let Emma really talk to her brothers about how to make money, how to constantly improve herself and how to become mature... How to be a mature man, in fact, different people will have different answers. Today, I will combine my teaching experience for 5 years, and talk to my brothers about what mature men look like in women's eyes. In fact, as long as we can avoid these points, at least girls will not think you are immature. The text first gives out the knowledge points: 1. Overestimate oneself 2. Avoid or be simple and rough in front of the contradiction. 3. Lack of patience. 4. Do not understand leadership when facing the trust of girls
1. Overestimate yourself
Usually, because of the rough of men, compared with girls, men are more likely to be complacent and appear narcissistic, and always show a good state of self-feeling. You may have seen this picture. Even if the girl is in a good shape, she is easy to feel that she is not perfect; even if the figure is very poor, it is easy for a man to think that she is still good. So many men are prone to conceit, feel as long as the following is randomly completed, girls should like him.
But if the woman is not very care to him, he will not think about whether she is attractive or not, and he is worthy of it. He directly bite to death and believe that TMD is the woman who pays money, vanity, green tea bitch. Immature boys, when they see other men have girls like, the most popular mantra is: is he not rich? Isn't he handsome? If I were like him, balabalabala, not the same
And I don't want to think about it at all. How to change my self value and improve my self pattern will always live in complaints and fantasies. So to be a mature man in women's eyes, it's really simple. First of all, you need humility. I will not repeat the virtue of modesty. It is a very important pattern for men.
Believe me, anyone follows the trilogy of transformation: 1. The transformation of the inner world: reshaping the three views; 2. changing the behavior mode and enhancing the executive power; 3. external interpersonal change and active social intercourse. So the first step in everything is to improve their own cognition, to see the present objectively and to reshape the three views. If you don't accept this one, there's no need to see it below, it's a waste of time.
2. It is not escape or simple and rough in front of contradiction
The first situation, encounter contradictions, do not speak. The conflict between mother and daughter-in-law should be the prelude to the outbreak of World War in our family. But this is an important moment to test men's Eq. some men can reconcile the contradiction smoothly, while some men are the catalyst for the contradiction. Take a familiar example: Woman: what else is your mother doing today? Man: what kind of ghost? Woman: she said me like that today. Did you stand beside me? Man: you think more: I know you and your mother have a breath, hum! I've seen you through
Then, many men choose to treat cold, if they don't stick there like a wood, or hide in the toilet and play mobile phones, let your woman let go of her grievance and do nothing. This not only does not solve the problem, but also leads the contradiction to itself. Is it very wrong to arouse the fire? To be honest, there are problems that are not terrible. What is terrible is that you know the existence of the problem without solving it, but you only recognize the avoidance.
So if the painting style is like this: Woman: what else is your mother doing today? Man: honey, what did my mother say makes you so unhappy? (when you see a woman angry, she talks soft) woman: she said that today, I balabalabala (women usually don't be unreasonable, you can hear what she said first and make a conclusion later). Man: Oh, it turns out that, actually, if I were in your house, your mother would be a little bit uncomfortable (first, she can feel her feelings from her perspective with empathy, and when she eases some of them to make sense, she is more likely to accept it.) woman: my mother won't? (start to flirt with you, isn't it half pulled back?) Man: I was naughty when I was a kid, so maybe she was impatient. Female: I was balabalabala male: so we do this, balabalabala
Maturity is the embodiment of a person's comprehensive strength. Maybe years later, you will find it important, but it is not too late to see this article, because Emma has just summed up an effective learning plan with her eight years of social experience and tens of thousands of students' growth experience. I want to give it to the brothers of the deer for free to learn the experience first (top 10 only).
3. Lack of patience
The first situation, unwilling to coax people. Girls make a little mood, in fact, it is very normal, you a little coax also OK. But many men are like this: every time you quarrel: "how do you get so angry" or "I am not good at wrong" or "how are you angry again" it doesn't work at last, girls are even more angry, and you feel aggrieved at last. In fact, this is you didn't talk about dialogue. Because you don't want to coax it, right? I'll analyze you: "how do you get so angry every time" - that means you are too concerned about "am I wrong, can't you" - you ask again, what attitude "how are you angry again" - what is it called? It seems that girls never speak rationally.
You say like this, women will feel you are not mature at all, why? Because you are not very capable of solving conflicts between you, not only not to ease, but to intensify. Isn't it a pretty crappy performance? The second situation, when communication with girls is not good, like to "you don't understand" to push off. Women are more sensitive and logical thinking ability is far less than men, in fact, the difference between men and women's thinking (see my article for details). So many problems in life may be easy for boys to understand, but for girls, it may be more difficult.
What you should do is try to be patient in a simple and straightforward way. Give her a brief introduction of the nature of things, rather than "you don't understand, you don't understand what you say to you" to perfunctory or blow. After saying she didn't understand, he told her, "honey, I'm concentrating now And I'll talk to you later, OK? "
When we talk and do things, we can ease our emotions a little, which can solve problems and not mess up the relationship. Some men will say, I care about her so much, I want to be self?! It sounds very aggressive. In fact, when you think about a girl who doesn't want to take care of you, what you feel in your heart, you can realize her anger at you. And you yelled her out, and you didn't want you to coax her back later. Why do you have to find so many things? Are you really idle? In women's heart, a man who can "plan in strategy and decide to win thousands of miles away" is not more mature and more gratifying than a man who knows how to take care of women's feelings.
4. Don't understand leadership when facing girls' trust
Many times, girls like to blurt out "casually", but in fact, it can not be casual. So, for example: BACKGROUND: you're going to a party of important friends. Girl: honey, what do you say I wear these two clothes? Man: both. See which one you like. What do you think of the dialogue above? It looks like a lot of respect for girls' own ideas. But in fact, girls ask like this, trust you, don't you see it?
You have not given effective advice or guidance to a girl when she asks for help. In the past, girls do have their own ideas, but you are slowly labeled as "not assertive" or "immature". It's innocent, isn't it? No way, because your answer is the same as the answer you didn't answer. Would you ask you next time? So girls have some uncertain decisions. When asking for advice, don't just "you are happy.".
Many people are reluctant to answer positively, and also consider that if they give their own suggestions, but the final result is not ideal, they may be complained by girls. But do you think you let her decide, and you can be sure in the future? So, what should be the right way to face the problem of girls? When a girl asks you which dress is more beautiful, you can respond like this: "come and let me have a good look Choose this one to highlight your strengths (skin lining, leg length, better looking, etc.). In short, she praised the joy, and everyone was happy.
If you are a girl, you can also say: come and let me have a good look. (at this time, hold her waist and hold her arm with the other hand, and look at it with your eyes) tell her that this dress makes me feel thinner than other clothes (in fact, there is no difference), and the advantages are outstanding (lining skin, showing legs long, looking better in Figure) Wait a minute.
Finally, the most important thing is to see what you wear, which one you wear I like. Let me see another one. You don't suffer much from that, but from the reference to your initiative to let girls change clothes to show you. From spectators to participants, this process will make girls feel you are mature. Instead of changing clothes, you're playing mobile phones.
Many times, girls will feel you are immature, the most fundamental is that you have problems in communication. As long as you can take on more responsibilities and are willing to work hard to communicate various problems in life, actively lead girls, you can also become mature and attractive men in women's eyes. In a moment, I have graduated for many years. In the days of social struggle, I have a lot of bitterness and bitterness in my heart to share with my brothers. A simple little story, the details of life, all reflect your comprehensive strength.
How about a long time of single love? How can single lovesickness be freed? Cao Xueqin once said: everything in the world is learned, and the cultivation of human feelings is an article. Maybe you haven't learned these things from school, maybe you need to try and error many times to mature. But the fastest way to grow is not to use your precious time