相亲第一次见面成功秘籍 Secret of first meeting success on blind date
As the Chinese New Year is approaching, many older leftover men and women will go on blind dates. Whether it's their first blind date or they've had many blind date experiences, they need to understand and master some blind date skills if they want to succeed. Today, Huazhen Xiaobian shares with you the secret of the success of blind date, hoping to help you get off the list successfully:
The secret of a successful blind date: who am I
Make up your mind, be not afraid of sacrifice, overcome all difficulties and strive for victory
Death tactics: timid, lack of self-confidence, fear of failure, high expectations.
Positive attitude (self adjustment before blind date).
Many people start to be nervous when they think of or prepare for a blind date. They are afraid that the blind date will not succeed and that they will be passed by the other party as soon as they go on the stage. But the more worried you are and the more you want to be good, the more nervous you are and the more likely you are to make mistakes.
If you want a successful blind date, don't treat him as a blind date, treat him as a friend you haven't met and chat with him. The more serious you are, the more anxious and nervous you are; the more you want to behave well, the easier you are to show your shyness. Therefore, first relax yourself and take blind date as a fun thing, then you can show yourself.
The secret of a successful blind date: what to wear
Key sentence: on a sunny day, it's particularly enchanting to see the red and plain clothes.
Must die: perfume smoked flies, heavy makeup, low breast, home furnishing, interview suits.
Correction key words: generous and decent, a little powder, clean and elegant.
Mind to relax, the appearance of makeup must also pay attention to, at least to be appropriate. Because the first impression is very important, and it is a kind of etiquette to show respect for each other. Men like to see sexy women, but they may not want their wives to dress up sexy, so it may be uncomfortable for girls to dress up too sexy when they go on a blind date. But if you wear too loose and bulky clothes, you can't see your figure. Wear soft color, can show body lines and not exposed clothes.
The secret of a successful blind date: where to go
We should pay more attention to strategy and tactics!
Must die tips: fast food restaurant, noisy environment, old routine (coffee, dinner, movie)
Key words: personality, fashion, elegant environment, taste, romance, delicacy and nature
The undeniable thing about blind date is that the two people who meet for the first time will be very cramped and nervous.
Choose an environment that can make you feel relaxed and comfortable, and let two strangers quickly put down their tight shell, so that they can show themselves well and understand each other more clearly.
The secret of a successful blind date: what to say
Key sentence: in the world, I'm afraid of the word "serious". I'm the most serious!
Death tactics: boss interview, family planning, boasting, aggressive, complaint meeting.
Key words of error correction: interesting self introduction, humor, appropriate career and future planning, showing interest in the other party, encouraging praise.
Humorous words can make the other party happy: also can let oneself relax.
One time we met a blind date "talent", who failed in more than 100 blind dates. "Is this a fake LV bag?" "you're 175 cm in high heels?" "I've had n kisses. If you say these words to a girl when you meet her, how can you not let her show embarrassment and leave in a hurry?
"My ex boyfriend..." "I don't like "The man of the world." "Do you have a car? Do you have a room?" some girls are anxious to get to know each other, anxious to let each other know themselves, and burst the news as soon as they open their mouth, which makes men feel embarrassed. On a blind date, don't get into debt, and don't take a big risk. Blind date has only one purpose: to get to know each other and determine if he is your dish. (additional tutors can be added for emotional counseling) \ \ / letter:
A good prologue is not difficult. After meeting, praise and praise each other: "you are so beautiful today!" and "you are so energetic today!" some people always think of "I have to pick him, what's the matter with him" before a blind date. They bring critical eyes and attitude to the communication. Naturally, they lead to defense and even "counterattack". When you choose, the other party hides the real side for self-protection. How can you further understand it? In addition, you may as well give the other party a concerned greeting: "are you busy today?" "is there a traffic jam on the road?" show concern, which is conducive to the next step of communication.
After you sit down, you should talk about common topics. Don't ask about each other's basic information like an interviewer's interview. For example, how many people in your family, how many acres of land per capita, how many cows in the field and so on. You can talk more about the topics related to each other's career and the things they usually like to do. Talking about these things will help you get to know each other faster. At the same time, showing interest in the other side can also effectively arouse the other side's favor and trust in you.
When two strangers meet, their topic is to talk about the new year. Because there are many interesting things in my childhood, I don't have to worry about it. And when talking about childhood, the other party's growth process, family background, parents' situation are very clear.
Important note: the first time to meet, not too long, not more than two hours.
Try to make the first meeting on the evening of the same Tuesday, Wednesday and Thursday. First of all, you can get to know each other's state after work, the situation on the road and the work during the day. If you don't have a good chat, there are good reasons to "quit" as soon as possible If you have a good chat, you can make an appointment to meet again on Friday or weekend.
If you choose the weekend for the first meeting, not only will it not have the above advantages, but even if you plan to meet next time, you will have to wait another week. The passion is easy to fade, especially for the leftover men and women.