Boyfriends are very good to you, but I don't like to sign up for good friends parties. Because they are always showing off their boyfriends, the comparison mentality makes me think that boyfriends are not as good as good friends, and they are not good enough. What should I do and how can I change this kind of comparison mentality
(I feel that my boyfriend is not as good as my best friend. How do I change my mind of comparison?)
Internet users' emotional questions:
Leng Da, thank you for your hard work every day to help you deal with emotional problems. I have encountered a very confused problem, so I hope Leng DA can give me a hand. I love vanity, comparison and selfishness, but it's not serious. Emotional problems plus Xinmu emotional teacher
Usually sincerely feel that men's ticket is a very good person, he does not drink, do not smoke, enterprising, have a sense of responsibility
Ability to work, have a skill, work smoothly, have a house and a car, one thing is not serious and meticulous, but also can. I'm not a very good girl at ordinary times. I take the overall situation into consideration and have a good personality. I'm very easy to think about. However, I can't sign up for a good friend's party, and I can't listen to other people tell me which daughter has found a good husband. A few days ago, I signed up for a good friend party. The boyfriend my good friend is looking for is either well paid or from a local family.
After listening to them, I feel that they will be able to help a lot at home. Those with high salary will buy expensive gifts for them, and they are all tall and big. But my male ticket looks good, but my height is a little low. My home is not local. I can't help in the future. I live a well-off life in general. Everything in the future depends on us.
I'm out of balance. I'm out of proportion. Since I was a child, I have been more excellent in the circle of good friends. My appearance, work and family conditions are better than them. But why can't I find someone who is better than their male ticket standard? Although I know that there are always people who are better than our country's and my attitude is very wrong, I just want to be excellent in my circle. I'm afraid that I will be envious and regret later.
Now this kind of mentality makes me worry and feel guilty. On the one hand, I think my boyfriend is very nice, on the other hand, I think his family situation is not good enough. How to recover the most effective after breaking up
If you want to break up with him, you are afraid that you will not meet a good boy like him, that you will become a leftover girl, and that you will not find a good standard. And I have no emotional problems with the male ticket. I have the same social circle. It's hard to break up. I'm ready to meet my parents in advance.
Leng Da, do you think that in our small city, is it to find a good man, a capable man, but no situation, to accompany him to fight for stability? Or is it to find a man with good family conditions, who can give a lot of help and have a good foundation in the future, but his own quality is slightly poor? How can I change my mentality
Response of Leng AI, consultant of Xinmu emotion
Girl, if you don't want to be such a good boyfriend, you can give it to others. If you feel that you are not willing to find a boyfriend with stronger standards, you should go to find him. How can you worry and worry again?
I think this kind of social circle is very low. Because the comparison is full of other people's scenery, but behind the dark side, who knows
saw bestie tall and cool. Who knows if he will beat his wife when he goes home? Does anyone know if he will prostitute himself? The registered residence is local, politically helps you, who knows if others are strong and not strong, will they show you the complexion? It is good to listen to others, just like you, and you will not say how much your boyfriend is down, and compare with your good friend. It's his business.
The big problem you have is that you don't learn to deal with problems in an all-round way. I think you feel very timely - vanity, comparison, selfishness, these three words summed up your integrity very well. Emotional problems plus Xinmu emotional teacher
If you have such a disdainful attitude towards your boyfriend again, your boyfriend will find out one day that you can't find a place to cry at that time. You look down on him, but he often looks for people who look up to him.
In addition, I see that you think: "find a person who has good family conditions, can give a lot of help, and will be at ease in the future, but has poor literacy.". I guess that in real life, it's very likely that boys of similar standards have already happened, and they have already pursued you, so you can actually describe it.
But you need to make it clear that this man really wants to marry you, or just flirt with you, and simply tease you? If he only stays with you for one night, he will be able to do so. But what about a lifetime? You need to make it clear that the other side's attitude towards your long-term and short-term nature, and learn to deal with problems in a more comprehensive way.
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