我22 岁、个子158cm、聪慧48cm、三线城市薪水2w—2w 。男友27岁、个子172cm 、60kg、三线城市薪水8k—9k 。
了解一年相处一年，如今我未婚先孕 。男友户下有一套老房子年末提前准备动迁，我父母规定老房子加我的姓名 ，等拆迁费出来买房子写我与男友的姓名 ，余款和室内装修款我与男友两个人担负，男友亲人痛快同意了。（感情问题加老师\/信：）
Now there are more and more people who enter the car first and then change their signature, and that kind of personal behavior usually affects the girl's relationship here. Now there is a case of emotional counseling in Huazhen: because of her unmarried pregnancy, a former boyfriend agreed to add her name to the house, but later regretted her appointment. In view of how to deal with this matter, let's take a look at how the emotional experts of Huazhen technology major analyze it.
Because unmarried first pregnant boyfriend regret about the house and my name should be how to do?
Internet users' emotional consultation:
I am 22 years old, 158CM tall, 48CM smart, and my salary in the third tier cities is 2w-2w. Her boyfriend is 27 years old, 172cm, 60kg and 8k-9k in the third tier cities.
I get to know each other for a year. Now I'm unmarried and pregnant first. There is an old house under my boyfriend's family, which is ready to move in advance at the end of the year. My parents stipulated that my name should be added to the old house, and when the demolition fee comes out to buy a house, my name and my boyfriend's name should be written down, and the balance and interior decoration money should be borne by my boyfriend and me, and my boyfriend's relatives agreed happily. (emotional problems plus teacher's letter)
A few days ago, my boyfriend and I got the marriage certificate. The day after we got the marriage certificate, my boyfriend's family regretted the appointment. Anyway, they didn't want to add my name and were unreasonable. My parents and I were particularly annoyed when we added my name after we bought a new house. We felt that they had been cheated by their dishonesty. If I buy a new house later, I will find all kinds of reasons to make it difficult for me to add my name.
Demand: now what can I do to let the male house add my name? The house name is my moral bottom line.
Xinmu emotional expert:
In fact, it was very easy to deal with this matter, because the other party agreed that you need to add your name to the old house before this matter, but later they broke their promise. It was their fault that they didn't keep their promise.
As everyone knows, although they are wrong, you have no stronger reason to talk about standards with them. Because in terms of laws and regulations, premarital real estate belongs to the other party, unless the other party wants to give it away and has gone through the procedures recognized by law.
The rule of "adding your name" is too much, unscientific, unreasonable and legal. His relatives' words are untrustworthy, and the social and moral problems do not violate the rule.
More importantly, you got pregnant before you got married. Because of this factor, you always have little control over this matter. The longer you delay, the less control you have.
Our suggestions are as follows:
First: to be the best of yourself, to reduce contact: to be indifferent to this matter.
Because the other party experienced the promise of service but didn't believe what he said, the other party felt that he was beyond reason. But you can just grasp this point and "strongly protest" to the other party by reducing or even breaking contact.
If you really put your mind in the right place and let the other party know that "house plus name" is your moral bottom line, your structure will be stronger. On the other hand, if you feel that you have no reason to speak, you will be more likely to look back. (emotional problems plus teacher's letter)
But what you have to do is to see how sincere the other party is in this matter. If the other party obtains his sincerity, wants to go along with you, invests a lot in your project, and indeed adds your name to the house, then you can look back and live a good life with him.
And their little grandson is in your belly. Maybe not? But there is also a risk in doing so, that is, they are really hard characters. They prefer a house to a daughter-in-law and a little grandson.
Second, improve the use value. The first is practice, but the second is basic.
Simply speaking, you have an axe, but you can't chop down a standing tree without strength. In other words, if your use value is not high, it is very simple for the other party to find a girl who is similar to your use value, or even higher than your use value, and the house doesn't need to be renamed, then your indifference can't make them vacillate at all.
The other side can completely put out the mentality of "I don't add names, if you are so indifferent and don't contact me, then I'll find a stronger one", and then ignore you. Therefore, your use value can be regarded as the real application. The best way to use it is to use weapons and equipment.
But now that you are already unmarried and pregnant, your dominance is really very few, unless you use your baby as the "main fund".
But I extremely do not recommend you to use this kind of method, because this method is too extreme, no matter to you, to him, to each other's home is all damage, and for your daily life after marriage will appear very bad harm.
Third: the most important thing is that you need to sort out the emotional diversity between you and this one again.
Are you happy? Is it true? Do you love deeply? If not, what's the use of a house? Trade a house for a child or pay for your damage? Do you find it interesting? Talk to him about love, about children and their future. Maybe it's better.
Generally speaking, the matter of unmarried pregnancy does too much harm to the moral bottom line of your "house plus name". If you can, it can only ensure the growth and development of the child and improve the use value, so as to win a lot of dominance.
It is advised that it is not advisable for fairies to get pregnant before they get married. It is necessary to do a good job in risk assessment before marriage and safeguard measures, so that a large number of leading powers will appear when the marriage is close to each other.
To be honest, I don't agree with this kind of personal behavior when there is no "love" at all, only for the house and money, or pure physiological irrationality that leads to the bad effect of tragedy.
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