许多 男生分手之后不主动联络，这个时候要想挽回得话，那就需要挑选恰当的方法，要不然会让另一方更为要想逃。想挽回一个人方法实际上许多 的。例如：给他们钱用，为他办事，陪他聊天。前2个事的成本费是很高的，实际效果也是比较有限的。还非常容易变为tian狗。为他做许多 的事，花许多 的钱，随后他很打动，随后一交往发觉聊不上一块去，那也只有停步于友情区了。可是你能聊天，就不一样了，你不但能让他人对你有感觉，他人还会继续想要积极给你做许多 事儿，花很多钱。由于会聊天，能够令人纾解烦闷，心情愉快，会感觉跟你在一起是一件刚开始的事儿，令人造成“其实你懂我”的觉得，觉得与你合得来，特想触碰你。表述自身是一种本能反应。每一个人都是有述说自身的冲动，有被了解的期盼。
愿意我见解的人，全是“友军”。愿意并能填补我见解的人，便是“志趣相投”的人。例如，還是拿另一方跟你调侃举个例子，你的答复是“对啊，我都感觉他对你怎样怎样。。。。”填补了别接受了另一方见解的情况下，另一方会感觉寻找知已。因此 假如你要让一个人跟你沟通交流更亲密无间，不必斤斤计较他的对与错，由于在他的全球里他的念头便是对的。没人想要被更改自我认同。你立在他的视角里，就是他的人。站来到对立面视角，便是会损害他的人。因此 ，你愿意另一方就可以了。
Many boys don't take the initiative to contact after breaking up. If they want to recover at this time, they need to choose the appropriate method, otherwise the other party will want to escape more. There are many ways to save a person. For example: give them money, work for him, chat with him. The cost of the first two things is very high, and the actual effect is also relatively limited. It's also very easy to become a Tian dog. Do a lot of things for him, spend a lot of money, and then he was very moved, and then a contact found that can not talk about a piece, it is only stopped in the friendship area. However, if you can chat, it is different. You can not only make others feel about you, but also continue to want to actively do many things for you and spend a lot of money. Because they can chat, they can relieve their boredom and have a good mood. They will feel that being with you is a new thing, which makes people feel that they can get along with you and want to touch you. Expressing oneself is an instinctive response. Everyone has the impulse to tell themselves and the expectation of being understood.
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Therefore, chatting is actually not very difficult, just two points: make people talk and finish speaking. It makes people feel that they can't speak clearly, and they can't speak in front of others. A person, if can in front of your eyes, open the door, then equivalent to get more than half. If you grasp this professional skill, you will also have a professional skill of provocation, a social media professional skill of reasonable pull in connection, a professional skill of repairing feelings, a professional skill that is very easy to make others feel about you.
Hello everyone! I am Wu Yue. I have been engaged in emotional counseling for more than ten years. I have helped 10W + students to recover their lovers. The key is to deal with three aspects of emotional problems for students: to save lovers, to save marriage life, to block real love, and to chat, and to teach you how to retrieve and get according to the actual combat practice True love, original "law of high recovery rate", "bridge quick recovery method" and "recovery control skill". As the veteran elite team with the most time in service platform, the largest number of classic cases and the largest pass rate, the quality of private customized course content and students' comments are all at the front end of the service platform.
1. Correctly guide the communication impulse of the other party
It is simply to state objective facts. It is the exchange of information and content. When we chat according to objective facts, we feel that we are only chatting about ourselves, not ourselves, so that the other party can feel a sense of belonging. At this time, your positive mention and simple compliance can be achieved, because the malignant event itself does not have the characteristics of excessive self exposure. Further intimate conversation is about each other. What I did, what I heard, what I did today, and what happened yesterday. When you have finished talking, I have created the most basic interpersonal communication. According to chatting, people simply begin to express their desire to chat and consider the satisfaction of getting along with others. But I don't know that what I exposed is only objective reality, which is not too related to me. I feel very safe again. At the moment, if you can make him want to say a lot and more detailed, he will draw more satisfaction and dependence from it. One way to enjoy chatting with you more is to be curious about what he often says. Because of your curiosity, there is no attack and denial, on the contrary, some are highly valued and listened to. This can stimulate the other party's impulse to chat.
2. Correctly guide the other party to talk about subjectivity
If you're just talking to someone about your real thoughts, experiences, three outlooks and suggestions, your self-identity is just beginning to sprout. In addition, it will also stimulate his self-identity, and now his friendliness will be raised to a higher level. For example, I would like to talk about a comment on someone, a point of view on something, a comment on some daily life, and then I would like to talk about my opinion on you: I think that's very good for you, I think it's a bit inappropriate for you to say that, I think you're right to say that. In fact, this kind of subconscious firmly believes that the other party can accept, so I dare to expose to you my mentality, comments and no doubt about you. When the other party is just beginning to express his subjective opinions to you, it means that he now has some trust in you, believes that you are safe and accepts him. At this moment, you should cherish one person's exposure to you, because your acceptance and recognition of the other party will make him want to expose a lot to you. For example, when he is making fun of one person, your reply to the other party is, "in fact, I think it's very likely that it's not what you want In fact, on the other hand, you don't stand with him on the network of sense of belonging, because in people's subconscious, those who resist my opinions are all "enemies".
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Those who are willing to see me are all "friendly forces". Those who are willing and able to fill in my opinions are "like-minded people". For example, take the other party to tease you, for example. Your reply is "yes, I feel how he treats you..." Fill in the situation that don't accept the other side's opinion, the other party will feel like looking for a confidant. So if you want a person to communicate with you more closely, you don't have to haggle over his right and wrong, because in his world, his ideas are right. No one wants to be changed. You stand in his perspective and you are his man. When you come to the opposite point of view, you are the one who will damage him. So, if you want the other side.
3. Correctly guide negative emotions
Experience is closer to the core of a person's spiritual essence than logical description. When I express my experience with you, you can feel the friendliness of my connection with you. Angry, very worried, or sad, similar to the experience of negative emotions. For example, if you are lovelorn, you say "this flower boy is really too much, he is such a thing" and you say "I am really sad". The second expression can give you inner comfort. Because the first expression has no emotional mobility, the emotional situation is blocked and held in the heart, while the second one, although more negative emotions, is indeed a way to vent experience and express cognition. I often teach to save