摘要:    网友情感咨询:    我168cm,43公斤,Acup,皮肤白,银行职员,长相大概五分。老公173cm,80公斤,在家帮忙做事,4分。我

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我168cm,43KG,A cup,白皮肤,银行员工,相貌大约五分。丈夫173cm,80公斤,在家里帮助办事,四分。我部他非处,均独,我家世好于他,是大学同学。早期我曾经爆过PU,中后期调整。平常他很懂得为我掏钱,室内装修结婚费用均他们家出示,花销大约150万余元,新房是爸爸妈妈房子翻修。这几天他跟我说能否用新房用于抵押,适用他自主创业,我拒绝不同意。他不满意我的回应,说他仅仅试探我,实际上不容易用于抵押。他认为是大家一同的房子,自身能够决策家中大事儿,还说他投入许多,说我算的精了,因而而大吵一架。我不开心憋屈,第二天早晨他又帮我说抱歉,说他不对,我没理他。他常常那样,前一天惹你生气,第二天当没事儿产生又来约你。花镇教师您曾说过,假如男生不理你你也就没理他,假如他来约你你就需要好好地回复。但是当一切没产生过我又做不到。我不会聊天,解决事情不坚决。(碰到感情问题手足无措,加上\/信:领到专业分析)

丈夫用抵押新房来试探我 我要原谅吗?

心木情感权威专家花镇回应:

一、属实告之心里的念头

你属实地对他说你内心的念头,说肯定不抵押是对的。仅仅那样你丈夫就沒有自主创业的资产,不可以根据做买卖来改进大家的生活水平了,你也就不可以看不上他没有钱没可耐了。假如你对如今的化学物质水准十分令人满意,大家中间就不容易有很大难题。(碰到感情问题手足无措,加上\/信:领到专业分析)

二、事情翻篇后不必传送负面情绪

你早已凭着性別优点获得很多东西了,包含婚房设计和完婚的开销。如今他说道要抵押房子这件事情过去就翻篇了,不要在这一事情上给他们过多的面色看,也不要在其他事情上刁难他。假如你给他们传送过多的负面情绪,他就非常容易动其他思绪:又沒有确实去抵押,仅仅试探地问一下,你都这心态,那还比不上立即拿来抵押了呢。那样反而得不偿失。就仿佛一个人本来没偷窃,大家却非把他作为窃贼严刑拷问,那他很有可能一伤心,下一次就确实变为窃贼了。

Internet users' emotional consultation:
I'm 168cm, 43kg, a cup, white skin, bank employee, about five points in appearance. Husband 173cm, 80kg, help at home, 4 points. My family is better than him. I am a college student. In the early stage, I had a PU explosion, and I adjusted it in the middle and later stage. Usually, he knows how to pay for me. The cost of interior decoration and marriage is shown by his family, which costs about 1.5 million yuan. The new house is renovated by mom and dad. These days, he told me whether he could use the new house for mortgage and apply it to his own business, but I refused to agree. He was not satisfied with my response, saying that he was only testing me and that it was not easy to use it as a mortgage. He thinks it's the house we all live in together, and he can make decisions on major issues at home. He also says that he has put in a lot of money and that I'm good at calculation, so he has a big fight. I'm not happy. The next morning, he said sorry for me. He said he was wrong. I ignored him. He often does that. He makes you angry the day before and asks you out the next day when nothing happens. Huazhen teacher, you have said that if the boy ignores you, you will ignore him. If he comes to ask you, you need to reply well. But when it doesn't happen, I can't do it. I don't know how to talk. I'm not determined to solve things. (I'm at a loss when I encounter emotional problems, plus I've received professional analysis)
Response of Huazhen, an authoritative expert of Xinmu emotion:
1、 Tell me the truth
It's right for you to tell him the truth about your inner thoughts and say that you will not mortgage. Just in that way, your husband will not have the assets to start his own business, and you can't improve everyone's living standard by doing business, and you can't look down on his lack of money. If you are very satisfied with today's chemical level, it is not easy for everyone to have a big problem. (I'm at a loss when I encounter emotional problems, plus I've received professional analysis)
2、 You don't have to send negative emotions after turning things over
You've already got a lot of things based on gender advantages, including the design of the wedding house and the cost of getting married. Now that he said that he wanted to mortgage the house, he turned the page in the past. Don't give them too much face on this matter, and don't make trouble for him on other things. If you send them too many negative emotions, they are very easy to move other thoughts: they don't really mortgage, just tentatively ask, you all have this mentality, it's not as good as mortgage immediately. That's not worth the loss. It's as if a person didn't steal, but they didn't torture him as a thief. Then he is likely to become a thief next time when he is sad.