摘要： 网友情感咨询： 我168cm，43公斤，Acup，皮肤白，银行职员，长相大概五分。老公173cm，80公斤，在家帮忙做事，4分。我
Internet users' emotional consultation:
I'm 168cm, 43kg, a cup, white skin, bank employee, about five points in appearance. Husband 173cm, 80kg, help at home, 4 points. My family is better than him. I am a college student. In the early stage, I had a PU explosion, and I adjusted it in the middle and later stage. Usually, he knows how to pay for me. The cost of interior decoration and marriage is shown by his family, which costs about 1.5 million yuan. The new house is renovated by mom and dad. These days, he told me whether he could use the new house for mortgage and apply it to his own business, but I refused to agree. He was not satisfied with my response, saying that he was only testing me and that it was not easy to use it as a mortgage. He thinks it's the house we all live in together, and he can make decisions on major issues at home. He also says that he has put in a lot of money and that I'm good at calculation, so he has a big fight. I'm not happy. The next morning, he said sorry for me. He said he was wrong. I ignored him. He often does that. He makes you angry the day before and asks you out the next day when nothing happens. Huazhen teacher, you have said that if the boy ignores you, you will ignore him. If he comes to ask you, you need to reply well. But when it doesn't happen, I can't do it. I don't know how to talk. I'm not determined to solve things. (I'm at a loss when I encounter emotional problems, plus I've received professional analysis)
Response of Huazhen, an authoritative expert of Xinmu emotion:
1、 Tell me the truth
It's right for you to tell him the truth about your inner thoughts and say that you will not mortgage. Just in that way, your husband will not have the assets to start his own business, and you can't improve everyone's living standard by doing business, and you can't look down on his lack of money. If you are very satisfied with today's chemical level, it is not easy for everyone to have a big problem. (I'm at a loss when I encounter emotional problems, plus I've received professional analysis)
2、 You don't have to send negative emotions after turning things over
You've already got a lot of things based on gender advantages, including the design of the wedding house and the cost of getting married. Now that he said that he wanted to mortgage the house, he turned the page in the past. Don't give them too much face on this matter, and don't make trouble for him on other things. If you send them too many negative emotions, they are very easy to move other thoughts: they don't really mortgage, just tentatively ask, you all have this mentality, it's not as good as mortgage immediately. That's not worth the loss. It's as if a person didn't steal, but they didn't torture him as a thief. Then he is likely to become a thief next time when he is sad.