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After breaking up, many people want to recover, but feel difficult, not easy to succeed, but in fact it is not, recovery is not as difficult as most people say.
How can so many people say that it is difficult? In fact, it is because they have touched the other party's moral bottom line in the process of recovery, that is, they have damaged the other party again, which makes recovery more and more difficult.
So it's not how many things you have done right that you can recover a lot of things. On the other hand, it's how many things you haven't made mistakes. Recovering things that are not like other things can give you enough opportunities to try to make mistakes and finally find an optimal solution. On the other hand, if it violates the moral bottom line again, then the compound model will become more and more hopeless.
Therefore, if you want to recover, you must avoid the following things.
Remember in a proper way
The past memories are really beautiful, you love her, he also loves you, but no matter how beautiful the memories are, they only mean the past, only show the past love.
But some people just don't understand this. Just like a fan in the past, she always feels that even if she breaks up with her ex, if she can often talk about the past in front of her ex's eyes, she can arouse her ex's affection for herself again.
It's true that memories can arouse the sweetness of the past, but in addition, they can also arouse the negative information of the past. For example, the fan's predecessor immediately told her, don't talk about the past, have you forgotten how much you used to be? Have you forgotten what you did? Then there was no follow.
You see, memory is a double-edged sword. If you use it carelessly, you may damage yourself.
Control the passion of propriety
Passion this thing grasp the maturity, can help you rekindle feelings.
But if it's too much or not enough, it's likely to get worse.
Don't believe it. Many of my students are like that. One of them asked me to imprint it on my heart. At that time, she seemed to have lost everything in her work and tried to recover it wholeheartedly. It's not convenient for her to exhaust her passion in an incorrect position.
The result is also in my expectation, that is, the predecessor sent her a heartless words, and warned her not to bother him.
So don't think that she is so diligent and in the wrong direction. It's all in vain.
A proper attitude
There are two kinds of bad attitudes. One is to please too much and expect to reach a compound goal by moving the other party. The other is to be extreme and expect to make people feel guilty by swearing and then compound with it.
Of course, no matter the former or the latter, the results are not very good. In the example I analyzed, no one with these two attitudes has achieved success.
Later, because I summarized it, the reason is that they didn't find out the proper way to solve the problem. They just expected to deal with the problem according to their attitude.
However, too much emphasis on attitude leads to too many pleasing and extreme attitudes, which leads to more and more deviation in the way of recovery. Finally, it fails to succeed, and everything is normal.
So now do you understand? The most important thing in the recovery is the location. It doesn't need to be damaged again. If you really understand this, then the recovery is not as difficult as you think.