How to heat up the relationship between lovers? Once many girls meet their boyfriends who break up with them, especially those who refuse to do so, they are immediately disheartened and think, "he used to spoil me, but now he is so cruel that he can't go back." I want to say to silly girls: Although boys are more rational than girls, their hearts are not made of stones. Even if they are firm at that time, as long as you understand their psychology enough and grasp the chance of recovery, you will change your life against the weather!
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Just break up, many people will worry that if they don't find each other, the other party will completely forget themselves, and there is no hope of recovery. As a result, they bombard each other with phone calls and text messages day and night after they break up. What's more, they even go to the other party's company and home to block people. Eventually, the other party can't bear to disturb them and completely delete them, so that they can go to a dead end. Pressing step by step will only make the other party feel that you are an immature, irrational and extreme person, which will lead to the other party's more disgusted with you. Remember, at any time should not be too much to expose their own sense of need, to save the most taboo obsession.
2. Constantly begging to please each other
When the other party points out the reason for your breakup and your wrong behavior, you may have a sense of guilt and fear, and this kind of passive breakup will greatly damage your self-confidence, may have a strong desire to please the other party's psychology, increasing the investment in the other party.
This kind of behavior is also easy to disgust the other party. The other party will think that you didn't do it when you needed it in the past, but now you have to make up for it after breaking up. Everything you do is purposeful and utilitarian, so this kind of recovery is basically impossible to succeed. Don't invest money in him, and don't buy things for him like before. You just need to do yourself well. When the affair of lovelorn never happened, you should live seriously and strive to improve your value.
3. Save each other with a low profile
This way is extremely dangerous, the other party will think you are a person without self-esteem, he can't change his mind because you abuse yourself like this, on the contrary, he may run further. Even if he came back to you for a moment, your position has become unequal. If you can't become the master of mentality, you will become the slave of emotion. Therefore, if the reason for breaking up is not on you, don't beg for his forgiveness in any way. You should try your best to keep your status on an equal footing with him, so as to have a chance to save him.
Recovery is not an easy thing, if you do not have good skills and methods, the road to recovery is doomed to be very difficult. At the same time, after breaking up, we should have the courage to judge the problems we have exposed in this intimate relationship and face them directly, so as to have the opportunity to sublimate our relationship. If he always chooses to escape and dodge, even if he is soft hearted to recover his success, there will still be more and more problems after the compound.
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4. Negative decadence and extreme way of recovery
People are emotional animals. It's normal for them to feel sad and listless when they are lovelorn, but they should also know that enough is enough. Many people with poor emotion management skills are dying when they hear about breaking up, imploring each other to stay in the way of self mutilation, or deliberately posting some negative and decadent state or sad words on the circle of friends or microblog every day This kind of self think that this is the performance of loving each other, think that the other party will change their mind when they see their negative and decadent appearance.
If the other party is not moved, such people will immediately change their face, abuse or even threaten the other party, such as saying "if you don't promise to be with me, I will commit suicide" Wait, these are extremely stupid ways to recover! Only when you let the other party see that you are living in real time every day, will he begin to question whether he has made the wrong decision, otherwise how can you not be sad at all. At this time, the other party has begun to waver, and even begin to re invest emotional value in you, which will make the recovery more hopeful.
5. Do not know how to reflect on their own problems
After breaking up, the most likely behavior to cause the opposite party's disgust is always thinking that he has no fault, and always explaining the reason for doing so to the other party. You know, love is a matter of two people, no love relationship is a party without any problems and lead to each other to break up. The reason why the other party wants to break up with you must be that there is something wrong with the way you get along with each other. If he has clearly expressed his dissatisfaction with you, but you just blindly explain and constantly emphasize that you are not wrong, then in the other party's heart, he will definitely think that you will never change, which will make him feel that it is right to break up at the beginning, and at the same time, it proves that you will not change in his heart Yes, this greatly increases the difficulty of recovery.
6. Use the pressure of public opinion to force the other party to compound
I often see some people do this: ask a group of people to stand in front of their partner with a banner that says "forgive me, dear". The partner will either run away embarrassed or yell at you as a shameless bitch. People are better face, but you through this way to break up the news to the world, TA will feel very ashamed, so TA will not come back to you. Don't let everyone know about your breakup. Just let your friends know at most. In this way, the other party won't lose their identity in other people's eyes, and it will promote your recovery.
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It is not so much to save a person as to save TA's feelings for you. It is impossible for us to deal with the emotion that needs to be retrieved in the simplest and most direct way. What we want is a set of recovery plan customized for each other. This plan is to be implemented in stages, and these stages are the core technologies in the recovery plan. Each stage is complementary to each other, and they are indispensable and wrong. Recovery is divided into five stages: short-term disconnection, restoration of contact, establishment of comfort, emotional recovery, and maintenance of feelings.
The first stage: short term disconnection
As the name suggests, temporarily disconnect all contacts, but not quarrel, tear your face, let the other party pull black you, but calm mood, temporarily put down your feelings. A relationship, to break up this step, has shown that there is a problem between you, at this time the other person's impression of you is certainly not good.
The only thing you can do at this time is to quietly disappear for a while with the rest of your self-esteem. During this period of time, you have to clean up yourself, whether it's the appearance or the inside, you have to upgrade to a higher level. In the process of recovery, the first stage is the necessary stage and also the key stage. You calm down the disconnection, for you to save the chance of success laid a 70% foundation.
The second stage: to restore contact
At this stage, the most important thing is to establish a sense of connection. So how do we build a sense of connection? At this time, you have to think about what channels you can pay attention to ta dynamic? For example, QQ tiktok, micro-blog, friends circle, shaking voice, singing and so on! It's really too much. Your ex has lived with you for so long, and the track of your life together can make it easy for you to connect with TA.
You've been breaking up for some time, and you don't disturb each other's life any more. After you have endured the first-order pain, your mind will become more mature correspondingly, but the urgency of you to get back together has never decreased, on the contrary, it has increased. How can we express it correctly? How do you do, TA will feel, you still love TA? At this time, you should make good use of your circle of friends and your mutual friends.
In the circle of friends, publish positive energy copy, positive pictures, and charming and self-confident self portraits; pay attention to the recent situation of mutual friends, and make opportunities to meet together. It won't be so embarrassing to be accompanied by friends. In the group chat dialog box that you exist together, you can send expressions to interact with TA from time to time, for example, send a game applet that the other party also likes to play, the store strategy that the other party likes to eat, the guide to places that the other party likes to go, and so on. At the stage of restoring contact, remember not to act too hastily, step by step, and bring the other party into a good situation of emotional warming.
The third stage: building comfort
This is a very important stage. The third stage of recovery is precisely because it is the top priority. You know, the reason for breaking up is no longer whether you have money, whether your family is good or not, whether your three outlooks are appropriate, but the comfort you give each other! Breaking up means that you don't provide emotional value to the other party. What you do makes the other party uncomfortable, disgusting and even disgusting.
So building comfort means changing yourself